Bleeding Hearts

I received a lovely email the other day from my mother-in-law. This is what she said: Hi Alexis Marie,   I was out in my garden today, and the tulip I planted in Zachary’s honor after ‘Walk To Remember’ a couple years ago is in full bloom. But this year it is coming up with a shrub I had planted last year and it is in bloom at the same time. The name of the shrub – Bleeding Heart. Very special to me, and I know it would be to you as well.   Love, Mom The bleeding heart. What a perfect picture of the grieving parent. For a long time I felt the jagged edges of what I could only describe as a broken heart but recently I was reading a book that used other symbolism to represent parental bereavement. Such symbols included a tea pot and a cracked nut, both able to hold...

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The Walk to Remember & Creative Ways to Celebrate our Children other than Balloons

My family attended the Walk to Remember again this year in Edmonton, Alberta. As always it was a special way for us to remember and celebrate Zachary’s life. While I always enjoy the Walk to remember, after last year’s announcement of the world-wide helium shortage my hope was that all balloon-using events would become more creative in finding options other than balloons. For example, last year at the Walk we blew bubbles instead of releasing balloons. I know for myself, I love the idea of the balloon release in regards to remembering my son. It’s like a little piece of my love can float up to heaven and reach him where I cannot actually do so. It’s an abstract idea. A sweet sentiment for sure. For Hannah, who is three, she likes to think that Zachary is up in...

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Walk to Remember Today in Edmonton

Today is the annual Walk to Remember in Edmonton, Alberta which celebrates young lives lost much too soon. The details: Where: Bandshell, legislative grounds, Edmonton. Noon: Picnic, bring lunch and a blanket to sit on. 1:00pm: The program will begin.  1:15: The walk will begin (approx 40 minutes). 2:00pm: Return to the bandshell for a reading of the baby names. This will be my fourth year attending the Walk to Remember. It is a gentle event that will allow you the precious pause to think about your child, grieve and move forward. If you attend, please find me and say hi! I’d love to meet...

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Walk to Remember Speech by Alexis Marie Chute

Walk to Remember took place today and I am so thankful that I was asked to share words of encouragement with those who gathered. Here is my speech. I hope it touched those who attended the Walk but can also live on to encourage others who read it here on my blog. Love to you all. Walk to Remember 2012 – Children Remain in the Heart Hello, my name is Alexis Marie Chute. Thank you for the honor of speaking to you today. The first time I attended Walk to Remember I was 28 weeks pregnant with my second child, Zachary. My husband and I kept to ourselves, somberly observing. After the event, a sweet young woman approached, laid a hand on my stomach and with tears in her eyes, said, “You must be so happy to be pregnant again!” “Actually,” I told her as I hugged my baby...

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